Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Mooching 34 year olds

So...I have never understood my brother...

Oh wait, yes, I know - first post in a LOOONG time, but I have been living my life rather than just writing about it. Of course, being I had not much to write could indicate a lack of life...(must ponder that later)


What is the deal with a 34 year old that is comfortable mooching off of his parents. And what is with the enabling????

After conversation with my mother today, I found out she has been enabling a certain child of hers - and I won't say which (there is me and my brother) - to live with her since April in Ohio (and I live here) - to save money. Ok fine. I am all about helping people when times get tough - let's face it, the economy sucks....I am a single mom...supporting me and lil man...I KNOW about things being hard.

I guess what I don't understand is this thought process of not wanting to better yourself...or not having ambition. Settling into a greasy, dirty, pitiful funk. Sadly, this fam member of mine has always been that way. And it is so frustrating. Even more frustrating, is the fact that people like this, do it without any care or concern for the people they are taking advantage of.

I understand the thought process of enablers - as I was once one of them. When you allow behavior to happen, you are enabling. I did that for 10 years. It took me that long to realize I had enough. And from that point, I decided to myself I would NEVER settle again. I would never put up with shit, or be taken advantage of anymore.

Listening to my mom recall her current drama was so frustrating to me, because first it was done to my dad...and then my dad shut it down, so the fam member moved on to my mom.

And...IDK, I guess that is all I have to say about that, because the situation sucks, and I just want to hit him, and smack her, lol...and so I have no complete thoughts here to post to rectify the situation.

So...I guess thats all I have to say about the patheticness of a 34 year old "man" who mooches....



  1. Just be careful when he says he wants to come visit for an indeterminate amount of time...

  2. What I find sad, is that as a little boy he had so much potential. Bright, curious, engaging. I am trapped in that time warp, and that is how I remember him.

    Of course, we won't even discuss how I felt about my "favorite niece". lol